Ouch, that achy breaky heart!

<div class="section1"><div class="Normal"><span style="" font-style:="" italic="">Research says falling in love can come close to being a psychological disorder. Bangaloreans dwell on the agony of it all</span><br /><br />With Valentine''s day round the corner and love in the air, here is something to chew on: falling in love may border on a serious psychological disorder, according to a recent magazine report. "For the vast majority of people who don''t suffer from mental illness, lovesickness is the closest they come to suffering from a psychological condition," says the article''s author, a clinical psychologist. People who are lovesick exhibit a wide variety of symptoms, including mania, depression and obsessive compulsive behaviour. Buying into a romanticised view of love, means that people are ill-prepared for what happens when the passion in a relationship goes cold.<br /><br />BT rounds up opinion on the heart of the matter:<br /><br /><span style="" font-weight:="" bold="">Waseem Khan, lensman:</span><br /><br />Love can be an incredibly devastating experience. It can wreak havoc on your emotions and ruin your physical well-being. It exposes you to your neurotic side. For me it has been a completely debilitating experience! When you love someone, you are not always sure whether they love you with the same intensity. That uncertainly can kill you. I courted my wife for several years before we finally got married. We broke up at least five times in between and that was awful. I have never experienced such excruciating pain. Men have egos and I couldn''t bring myself to admit to anybody that she may have dumped me. I even contemplated suicide. I''d suffer from bouts of jealousy and self-doubt. I had no one to confide in or talk to. I''d keep waiting for her to call. If she was even five minutes late, I''d fret and fume.<br /><br /><span style="" font-weight:="" bold="">Varuni Mohan, style expert: </span><br /><br />People who have a romanticised view of love and relationships tend to be quite unsure of themselves. They don''t feel complete and are insecure. You need to work on yourself first before getting into any relationship. Dependency on someone else to feel good does not work. When someone is rejected in love, they should get support and sympathy from their family. If you don''t, you tend to seek it outside.<br /><br /><span style="" font-weight:="" bold="">Harathi Reddy, PR professional: </span><br /><br />When you are attached to somebody, it does take a while to get over their absence. It''s a question of getting realigned and readjusted. Time is a healer. But it all depends on your mental outlook. If you believe that things really do happen for the best and remember all the good times you had with your love, it won''t hurt that much. Heartache happens to anyone who leads a ''normal'' life. It is a part of life, you should go through it and learn from it. There are those who are so scared to feel the pain that they jump from one relationship to the next. Now that''s a disease and there''s a lot of it going around town!<br /><br /><span style="" font-weight:="" bold="">Lakshmi Ravi, dancer:</span><br /><br />When one gets emotionally involved then it is very difficult to get over a broken relationship. The memories won''t go away, but you have to let time pass by. Remember that though love hurts, people have gone through worse like the loss of a family member. Being by yourself for a few days, reading a lot, keeping busy with work, helps ease the pain. Talking to a very close friend and confiding in your parents works well for many, I think.<br /><span style="" font-style:="" italic="">sangeeta_cavale@indiatimes.com</span></div> </div>